I listened to a lovely presentation last week: Building Better Relationships with Michael Desanti.

Michael spoke about a thoughtful topic: Boundaries. His definition: Energetic agreements to keep both parties safe.

He went on to expand: think of your boundaries as a home. In your life, you have your outside circle — who is on your ‘porch’. You have an inner circle — who is in your ‘kitchen’. And then you usually have your partner — who is in your ‘bedroom’.

In each ‘room’ in your home, there are different levels of expectations. Highest in the bedroom; lowest in the porch.

The challenge: The wrong people are in our rooms. This breaks agreements, reduces mutual safety, and withers relationships. There are folks in our ‘kitchen’ who would better off on the ‘porch’. Or people we keep our ‘porch’ that actually deserve a spot in our ‘kitchen’.

It struck me: be cognizant of who’s in certain rooms in your house. And reshuffling your home from time to time is an act of love — both to you and to them.