Queens Museum

Last week, I visited a hidden NYC gem: the Queens Museum. It showcases the visual arts and educational programming of NYC, especially the Queens community (the most diverse in the world!).

One fascinating installation was the Panorama of the City of New York. Built in 1965, it’s a massive, almost 10,000-square-foot model of the city.

100+ workers designed 895,000 buildings at a scale of 1inch per 100 feet. It took 3 years to painstakingly build — and my goodness, it’s magnificent. It even has moving airplanes every minute from the LaGuardia Airport!

When you think of NYC, it makes me think of the millions who immigrated from faraway countries to make America their home. One quote stood out at the museum: 

Becoming American has always been contested. It demands proof, strategy, and effort. And when you come here, arriving is not the same as belonging. Belonging is a process, not a guarantee.

Definitely a cool visit — take a look if you find yourself in Queens (US Open or Mets Game))

Image: Central Park on The Panorama of the City of New York, 2016. Photo: Max Touhey.

Observe ≠ Absorb

I saw a compelling post from Dr. Jaime Seeman about managing feelings.

Her thesis is how to shift from emotional reactivity → emotional regulation. It’s practicing how to observe emotions, rather than absorb them.

Reactivity occurs when we pull in negative energy (absorb) from our surroundings. When we soak everything in, any annoyance or frustration can spike the amygdala (emotional center) — sending us into overwhelm.

Ways to manage? Become a spectator to your feelings — it activates the prefrontal cortex (logical center). Name it to tame it. Then the intense triggers will be a lot easier to manage.

Generational Lessons

Living in NYC, you see plenty of wealth. Entering someone’s home, one can be instantly astonished. “How can they afford this?” Jealousy can niggle in, and your lizard brain rationalization begins…

“Must be nice to be born with a silver spoon in their mouth,” or “Must be nice to have the Bank of Mom & Dad.” Silly thoughts to help cope.

Yes, generational wealth is real - and sure, irritation is normal to feel if one ponders what’s fair between the “have” or “have-nots”. Sitting with this feeling, I have come to realize that generational wealth is way more than just a transfer of assets. It’s also generational lessons.

With that truth, I consider myself enormously lucky. My parents—my Amma & Papa—gave us (my brother Sameer and I) an overflowing bounty. From living responsibly and using money as a tool, to building skills (emotional/technical) and investing for the long term… the list goes on and on.

A powerful reminder that wealth can be passed down in many ways. And if you are fortunate to be given wisdom from a caring loved one, you are already rich.

XXXVI

I’m 36 today! Entering the next half of the decade — filled with as much gratitude as the first half.

36 symbolizes humanitarianism, creativity, completion, community, and wisdom. Pretty solid goals to actualize!

My reflections for the year:

• Mosaic. First birthday as a married man. Immensely lucky to have Tanvi as my life partner. Building our mosaic together feels special; a privilege of the highest order. Remembering two things: 1) Forgive fast. When one forgives, two are freed. 2) It doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.

• Adaptable. In many ways, I can be brittle. My views tend to calcify on how things “should be”. But life is funky and throws many, many curveballs. A big growth area for me is mastering the art of flow — go with the current, not against it. I want to continue being agile and taking things as they come. Also, it’s my 2026 word of the year!

• Let Them. An ocean of swirl can drown me if I keep rationalizing people’s behavior. Practicing this concept from Mel Robbins has helped me pull away from anxious thinking and center myself. Sometimes, the best strategy isn’t explanation, it’s acceptance. The only one you can truly understand is yourself.

As always, my deepest appreciation to my community. Not a day goes by that I don't think of how lucky I am.

To another happy, healthy ride around the sun — for all of us! ☀️

Past years: 35, 34, 33, 32, 31, 30

Shiver

Validation tends to be found externally — a number you track, a compliment you receive, a title you earn.

It can also be confusing — you may get applause for things you, frankly… hate. That feeling of approval can be intoxicating.

How do you know you’re actually on the right path? As I get older, I come to realize it’s all inside; your subconscious speaks in sensations.

For me, it’s a full-body shiver. A tingly sensation that I know I’m on the right track (fun fact: also called a frisson or aesthetic chills).

A good reminder to notice how I am involuntarily reacting as I move through life. If my body is talking, am I listening?

Contact with the Ball

A goal can feel looming. It sits far in the future, a light that flickers faintly.

When an outcome looks distant, easy to get disheartened. You start to grumble to yourself: Why bother?

Author Ryan Holiday shared something that captured this nicely: “Make contact with the ball. Let the rest take care of itself.”

It reinforces a thesis that continues to inspire me: Effort drives progress. Yes, even if it’s infinitesimal. Bunts, not just home runs, can still score points.

So keep swinging… ⚾

Memory Making

I think a lot about community - how to build it, tend, and foster it. What keeps it vibrant and rich?

In this spirit, I’ve been reflecting more on memory making. Elevating a normal hang (dinner or drinks) to something that will stick in your mind for months to come (a creative outlet, a unique artistic venture)

Catching up is wonderful, but can that be attached to an experience? A place where you can enjoy both knowing about someone plus experience a novelty by being with them.

Yes, it takes a little more work & planning - but that extra effort really pays off. Hoping for more “Remember that time when we…?” in the future.

Return to Love

Happy Valentine’s Day! I was reflecting on what helps in long-term relationships.

One was the ability to return to love. With a deep connection, you experience the most vulnerable & raw sides of each other. The meltdowns, annoyances, and frustration — it all comes out. And when things boil over, it can erupt in anger from time to time.

The big test is what comes next. Sure, I can sulk and stew in my negative thoughts — but that prolongs the discomfort unnecessarily.

But if I can quickly reduce the time to come back to equilibrium — lower my ego, apologize genuinely, and change my behavior — the outcomes are so much better.

A good reminder that we are a team. And a strong team can bounce back against everything. ♥️

Raising the Bar

As we look at our growth, it’s easy to get frustrated. What have I even done?

In a short time frame, it’s hard to make out progress. Things feel stagnant — and it can feel weird knowing you aren’t making steps.

I’ve come to realize that’s a narrow view. And I’ve been reflecting on the idea of horizons.

The more we zoom out, the more we can see big, lasting changes. Widening the aperture means you can see true patterns. A month or year can’t tell you much…. but a decade? That can be illuminating.

Maybe you don’t realize how far you’ve come, because you keep raising the bar.

Aura

Last weekend, NYC was hit by a powerful winter storm that brought around 10in of snow. First time in a decade!

Naturally, a storm of this magnitude throws the city into chaos. Normal systems—roads, transportation, services—start to strain and crack. It’s not easy, especially with ~8 million people trying to keep a normal life.

A first major test for the recently elected NYC mayor, Zohran Mamdani. And my goodness—over the past week, I’ve been struck by how well he and his team have handled it.

Clear, sharp communication. All delivered through digestible videos. He’s been everywhere—from shoveling snow in each borough to even The Tonight Show. All in an effort to show up for NYC residents.

Incredible to watch him work: an amazing blend of magnetism, poise, kindness, and charm. Plus, a bonus: huge admiration for him being South Asian and younger (only 34!)—crazy to think he’s a peer in small ways.

A leader with a true aura. Lucky to have him as our mayor!

Course Correction

The first month of 2026 is coming to a close next week! How are you feeling? How are your goals?

This generally caused me stress. Grand plans start showing cracks. And once I start slipping, it’s hard to get it back. Most aspirations fall by the wayside by spring…

Ouch. Quite demoralizing. That’s why I liked this thinking from author Kevin John Delaney.

Commercial airplanes offer a helpful reminder. After a plane takes off, it's slightly off course for much of the journey. What matters isn’t flawless precision—it’s the constant course corrections made along the way. Small adjustments. Repeated often. That’s how a plane arrives where it intends to go. What small correction would bring me closer to the life I want to be living right now?

Recalibration > Reinvention. A reminder to move away from sweeping resolutions towards better systems. And tweak those systems periodically — and soon you’ll arrive!

Noguchi Museum

A few weeks ago, I visited the Noguchi Museum, featuring the works of Isamu Noguchi.

He was an artist renowned for fusing modernism with traditional Japanese aesthetics in sculpture, landscapes, furniture, and lighting.

He also designed public pieces worldwide — from playgrounds and plazas to gardens and fountains.

Noguchi incorporated a wide range of materials — from stainless steel and marble to cast iron and balsa wood. He explored themes of transformation, mortality, vulnerability, weightlessness, erosion, and humanity’s coexistence with nature.

Artists continue to capture my imagination — especially sculptors. Molding beauty from elements in three dimensions? Awe-inspiring.

One of his reflections on why museums matter resonated with me:

“A museum is a repository against time. Fragile objects need protection, but even without this need, there is a semblance of eternity, a sense of permanence that is implied by a museum, and a removal from time’s passage.”

Recommend a visit if you’re in Queens; it’ll be a serene & gratifying visit!

Passenger Mode

When we go through difficult times, a natural impulse seems to be “solve”. Fix it and move on…

But some situations are truly beyond us — and any sort of solution falls short. I read something that resonated with me: Passenger Mode.

Switch into passenger mode when things are beyond your control. Your role is to go with the flow—not to diminish the situation, but to help you endure it. Be patient with yourself and take things one moment at a time.

It’s okay not to be the driver. Sometimes the steering wheel is no longer yours to hold. Just try your best to navigate gently. Let the road take its course — one mile at a time.

Real Success

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2026 — a fresh start, a blank slate, a new chapter!

As planning commences, I think about what a great year will be. Good time to review our systems and habits to drive progress.

It’s an inward-looking process of “what can I do?” Yet I saw a post by author Jay Yang that made me reconsider what’s important.

“Real success is how many people thank you for theirs.”

Beautiful insight. Yes, keep climbing your tree of growth, but don’t forget to reach back and give your hand. Lifting others is the real success.

What will you do for yourself and others in 2026?

Glimmers

Merry Christmas! I trust that many of you are enjoying one of life’s biggest blessings: a cozy house filled with loved ones.

As I think about gratitude this holiday season, I am reminded of the idea of glimmers.

Glimmers are tiny, everyday moments of joy, peace, or connection. A cup of chai in the morning, or a warm fire in the evening. The happy glee of a child, or the sound of relaxing music.

When you feel a positive shiver down your spine, it’s a good sign — our body is at rest. You are living in a good memory! Happy holidays to you and yours.

The Veins of the City

Last weekend, I went to the NYC Transit Museum. It showcases New York City’s transportation history with vintage subway cars, buses, artifacts, and interactive exhibits in an underground setting. It’s housed in a decommissioned subway station in Brooklyn.

As someone who takes the subway daily, it’s a marvel to hear the herculean effort it took to plan, burrow, build, and electrify this huge network. Some interesting things that stood out:

• It’s one of the world’s oldest systems at 121 years, opening in 1904, yet it still runs 24/7.

• Around 4M people ride the subway daily, hitting a billion trips since inception.

• Trains travel a combined 365+ million miles per year—far enough to reach the sun and back.

• Dynamite was essential in carving out early subway tunnels through Manhattan’s tough bedrock. Blasting happened so frequently that locals called it “the Manhattan thunder.”

• There’s a ton of underground streams; engineers had to redirect or drain before tunnels could be dug.

Still wild to me that NYC has not only a soaring skyline, but also a massive underground. Impressive engineering, to say the least.

A quote that I liked: Riding the subway is New York City in microcosm: everyone rides for the same price, regardless of age, ethnicity, religion (or any of the other things that make humans human), and can go anywhere the system goes.

The Inner Compass

I finished a lovely book from one of my favorite authors: The Inner Compass by Lawrence Yeo.

The 100-page book is a quick read. It explains how to ease inner tension by trusting yourself rather than chasing outside approval. Yeo teaches you how to face fears, build self-worth, and live more authentically.

The main thesis is that we feel lost because of the clutches of conditioning, where there’s an expectation outside of you to become something you’re not. We lose conviction in our intuition - the “magnet” that can guide us to contentment.

How do we combat this? The three principles he mentions are Reflect, Relate, and Create. Reflect to calibrate, relate to connect, create to express.

Reflect → Whenever there’s tension, there’s a tale. Look inward to understand the fears, beliefs, and patterns shaping your choices. The best tool is writing in a journal, not a diary — to examine your thoughts to ask “why”, not just “what.”

Relate → Connect with your trusted circle to gain perspective and reinforce what matters. Try not to fall into the traps of envy, but learn to accept and admire. But be careful where you solicit feedback; they should be caring and credible.

Create → Take intentional action to express yourself (art, writing, music, cooking), and commit to mastery. It gives you agency to focus on yourself — becoming a kinetic force that propels you forward.

The more we do this, the stronger our compass to guide us to a life well-lived. Yeo ends with a great sentence: “How fortunate you are to be you…”

Let it be something good

As a chronic planner, I can find my fear of the future unsettling. What will come is so uncertain that it’s easier to be lulled into the comfort of ‘what has been…'

I am trying lately to refocus on a way shorter timeline (the now) — and I remembered something I came across:

This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever. In its place is something that you have left behind. Let it be something good.

We all intuitively know how precious life is. But the days can drift by if we continuously drown ourselves in the past and future.

A call to myself: today is a privilege. And if time is our most valuable currency, I’m exchanging a day for it. So how can it be something good?

Treat It Differently

Happy Thanksgiving! As I count my blessings — health, love, and community — I’m reminded of how wonderful yet delicate these gifts are.

This quotation made me reflect on this:

"If you want something to last forever you treat it differently. Anything precious, like an old antique or a masterpiece you take care of. You protect it, shield it. You never abuse it. You don't expose it to the elements, harsh sunlight, ferocious winds, rain.

You don't make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new, it becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more precious, more beautiful as time goes by. "

So true. The pillars of life that bring us the most gratitude need the most effort. They require the commensurate, daily attention — it can’t be an afterthought (or decay will happen).

A Turkey Day reminder to myself: the most precious things in life become special because we have made it so.

Understanding

I saw something from Jay Shetty that I liked: People change from being understood than being corrected.

We care so deeply about our loved ones; it’s hard to see when they struggle. And our first instinct is to jump in and set them on a course of success.

But as we all realize, change starts from within. And it’s actually more helpful to be the best listener than the best lecturer.

And on more occasions, the best counsel comes from comfort.

“I’m here for you no matter what. Now, tell me how you’re really doing?”