In relationships: every big problem was as a small problem once.

When issues arise, we tend to kick the can down the road because you’ll deal with it “someday”. But eventually, it snowballs into a threatening monolith.

Can we identify the weeds that are starting to sprout before they become trouble? After all, we both are sharing the same pot of soil.

A few things I heard recently that can help us start from the source:

1. If your partner is activating a tough emotion in you: try saying “Here’s what I’m scared to tell you” and lead with your heart.

2. If you are activating a tough emotion in your partner: “If you mess up, fess up” and do it early and apologize well.

More honor, more mercy, more kindness, and more softness…if we address it small, our garden will bloom big.